- Life is good, but now and then everyone has a difficult or unhappy time. That's a normal part of life.
- Things nearly always get better, even though sometimes they may take a bit longer to improve than you would like. Stay hopeful and work on the problem if you can.
- You will feel better and have more ideas about what you might do if you talk to someone you trust about what's worrying or upsetting you.
- No one is perfect. All of us make mistakes and finds out there are some things we can't do well.
- If you can find something positive or funny in a difficult situation, no matter how small, it can help you cope better.
- Take fair responsibility for the thing you have done or not done that contributed to a difficult or unhappy situation. Don't over-blame yourself because circumstances, bad luck or what others did may have contributed too.
- If a situation can't be changed, you just have to accept it and live with it. Don't make yourself miserable by exaggerating how bad something is or by assuming that the worst possible picture is the one that will happen.
- When something goes wrong it will usually only affect one part of your life. Concentrate more for a while on the things in your life that are still going well.
- Everyone gets scared at times but not always about the same things. Facing your fears will help you to grow stronger.
- Don't let yourself by 'hijacked' by your feelings so that you are no longer in charge of yourself. Find a way to calm yourself down so you can think of the best way to deal with how you are feeling.
- You can change a bad mood into a good mood if you try. For example, you could:
- re-think the problem in a more helpful way
- go for a vigorous walk or undertake some other form of exercise
- do something kind for someone else
- go over some good memories by looking through photographs
- watch a funny TV how or DVD or read something funny.
An excerpt from : Resilience: helping your child to 'bounce back' by Toni Noble & Helen McGrath
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